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No More Pressure

 

Do you have the nerves to ruin your own family’s name? In my point of view, the conflict of the book (un) arranged marriage is person vs. society because this book shows how people could be different from what family or culture they were born in.

When Manny was living in Punjab, he meets a very special uncle, uncle Jag, who was also like Manny, did not want to have the future all his family members had, which forces him to end up deciding to leave his family and discover his own path outside of Punjab. Rai writes, “Then he slapped me across the back of he head with his huge hand, sending me crashing into the side of the stairway” (224). This quote occurred when Manny walks into his house after returning from Punjab, his old man beat him up because he had sneakily come back from Punjab which was disobeying what he said. His old man did not care about how Manny felt after the fact that they all tricked and ditched Manny then left him alone in Punjab with his relatives, all he cared about was Manny shouldn’t have left Punjab so early. When reading parts where Manny gets beaten up by his old man, I think his old man is very crazy because he doesn’t even have the reasons to hit him. When my parents hit me, I must have done something very bad that will make them very angry, but Manny’s old man gets angry and hits him for small problems. Rai writes, “Harry, the wanker, had even gone and fitted a new lock on my bedroom door just so that they could keep me prisoner” (228). This quote explains how no one cared how he was feeling. Even his brother, Harry, did not feel sorry for him, but actually locked him up as a punishment. Rai writes, “No more hanging about with that monkey and all them goreh” (254). This quote happened in a party before the wedding, one of his brother’s friends started to tease African Americans, which he was referring to Manny’s best friend Ady. When Manny hears this, he becomes really furious and wanted to beat his friend up for being such a racist.

After meeting Jag who helped him a lot with his future and returning to England to live with his family, Manny realizes he hated the Punjab culture and he could no longer live in the culture. Manny also hated his family; there was no one who cared about him or even acted normal. His dad beats him up for no reason, his brother Harry can’t stop teasing him, his mother does not even talk to him, the only time they talk is at dinner, and lastly his oldest brother Rajit acts friendly but actually doesn’t care at all. Manny certainly wanted to revenge after what his family had done to him and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Rai writes, “As I pulled the door shut we drove off, wheel spinning down to the bottom of the road as Busta Rhymes kicked the ballistics” (263). To revenge, Manny ditched his arranged wedding, the wedding his old man was so proud of and spend so long to arrange. Manny ditches the wedding just like how he was ditched in Punjab, leaving his family in total embarrassment. After leaving his family, Manny has finally solved the conflict he had and got the life he always wanted, an ordinary life. Now he lives with Lisa’s parents, who are the most caring parents Manny could ever have. As a reader, I’m really thankful to live in a family who care about how I feel, listens to what I share, cheers me up when I’m feeling down, and hit me for my bad actions because they care about me. Lastly, they let me choose my path.

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Manny Just Got Trolled

Rai writes, “I’ll go…” (114). Manny finally makes the decision and agrees to go to Punjab for 2 months with his family for vacation. There, India, is where his old man claims is the most amazing place he will ever go to. Manny, not thinking too much, believes what his old man said and will be traveling to India for the first time.

When Manny and his family arrived at Punjab, it was much hotter than England. The heat was getting him frustrated and he desperately needed a pack of  cigarettes. Meeting his uncles, cousins, and aunts wasn’t too bad, they were all very kind to him. Staying for about 2 weeks, he gets closer with his cousin, Inderjit. “This is what I smoke. English cigarettes” (140). This quote explains how Manny gets closer with Inderjit, they both smoke cigarettes. Living there for about 6 weeks, his oldest brother, Rajit and his wife, had to leave because Rajit had to work. Rai writes, “Two more weeks of Warm cola and dodgy fags. Two more weeks, man” (148). Manny could not wait any longer to meet his best friend Ady and girl friend Lisa in England.

Rai writes, “That agent, Manjit, the one that has our tickets and passports. He had a problem at his office and they have been stolen…” (150). Manny was in total shock when he heard this, because of this he cannot go to his, real home. Manny’s old man tells him he and his mother will be going to Jullundur to fix this problem. While they fix this problem, Harry and his wife will be visiting her family. Now, Manny was left alone with his cousins and other relatives. In my perspective, living without parents telling you what to do is really fun. Getting to do whatever you want, sleep late, play video games, watch TV, etc. But to Manny, Manny has to live with the people who live in the culture where you have to marry who your parents choose, which is his total nightmare.

Rai writes, “They were all liars, all of them. In it together from the beginning and they had tricked me” (164). Manny was brought to another place in India for a day in order to give time for all of his family members to leave back to England. Manny was trolled to come to India, he knew his family wanted him to marry another girl other than Lisa, just like his cousins and other relatives. Rai writes, “You think you’re so clever, hey? Try laughing next month when you’re still here, innit” (152). Manny finally realizes what Harry meant. His entire family knew this plan, that he would be left behind alone. All the things his dad was talking about, how beautiful India is, were all lies. Rai writes, “Bad people. Druggies and whores. It’s not good” (145). Manny’s old man was such a hypocrite going on about the ‘drug society’ and black people all the time. Here, right here in the village he called home, there were drugs and prostitutes and people have affairs, yet Manny hadn’t even seen a single white or black person in this village. Manny could not believe what his family had done to him. Now he has made the decision to revenge, he must have to find a way to ruin his old man’s image.

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SMS Explains: The Worst Nightmare of Manny

Do you wish your parents force you to marry some one you don’t even know?

Below is a set of SMS I made to show the introduction of the conflict from the book (Un) Arranged Marriage by Bali Rai. I think the conflict of the book is person vs society. In the exposition of the book (Un) Arranged Marriage, because of his culture, the main character Manny was forced to marry a girl he had never seen before.

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Older brother teasing Manny

Because Manny lived in England so long, he did not feel as connected to the Punjabis. The first message is a conversation between Manny and his annoying older brother. In Punjabi, people did not care much about academics, but Manny was different. Rai writes, “What you wanna read for, man? Bloody Dickens- what are you, gorah(white) or something? Read about bloody man’s stuff, innit” (17). Every time Manny tries to study for his school work, his brother always be teases him.

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Manny’s father forces him to marry his friend’s daughter.

Rai writes, “I have told her father that you will marry her after next summer, when you are both seventeen…” (66). The second message shows the worst part of being a Punjabi for Manny. Manny doesn’t get to choose who he is married to, his father arranges it. It didn’t matter which girl his father chose, Manny cannot say no to anything because it’s disrespectful to do that in Punjabi.

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Manny talks about the arranged marriage with his girl friend.

Rai writes, “So just keep on trying until you get through to them. Talk to them” (77). Lastly, in the third message, Manny talks about the arranged marriage with his girl friend. His girl friend, Lisa, knows Manny does not want to marry some one else, so she tries her best to give Manny some confidence.

 

 

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