Do you have the nerves to ruin your own family’s name? In my point of view, the conflict of the book (un) arranged marriage is person vs. society because this book shows how people could be different from what family or culture they were born in.
When Manny was living in Punjab, he meets a very special uncle, uncle Jag, who was also like Manny, did not want to have the future all his family members had, which forces him to end up deciding to leave his family and discover his own path outside of Punjab. Rai writes, “Then he slapped me across the back of he head with his huge hand, sending me crashing into the side of the stairway” (224). This quote occurred when Manny walks into his house after returning from Punjab, his old man beat him up because he had sneakily come back from Punjab which was disobeying what he said. His old man did not care about how Manny felt after the fact that they all tricked and ditched Manny then left him alone in Punjab with his relatives, all he cared about was Manny shouldn’t have left Punjab so early. When reading parts where Manny gets beaten up by his old man, I think his old man is very crazy because he doesn’t even have the reasons to hit him. When my parents hit me, I must have done something very bad that will make them very angry, but Manny’s old man gets angry and hits him for small problems. Rai writes, “Harry, the wanker, had even gone and fitted a new lock on my bedroom door just so that they could keep me prisoner” (228). This quote explains how no one cared how he was feeling. Even his brother, Harry, did not feel sorry for him, but actually locked him up as a punishment. Rai writes, “No more hanging about with that monkey and all them goreh” (254). This quote happened in a party before the wedding, one of his brother’s friends started to tease African Americans, which he was referring to Manny’s best friend Ady. When Manny hears this, he becomes really furious and wanted to beat his friend up for being such a racist.
After meeting Jag who helped him a lot with his future and returning to England to live with his family, Manny realizes he hated the Punjab culture and he could no longer live in the culture. Manny also hated his family; there was no one who cared about him or even acted normal. His dad beats him up for no reason, his brother Harry can’t stop teasing him, his mother does not even talk to him, the only time they talk is at dinner, and lastly his oldest brother Rajit acts friendly but actually doesn’t care at all. Manny certainly wanted to revenge after what his family had done to him and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Rai writes, “As I pulled the door shut we drove off, wheel spinning down to the bottom of the road as Busta Rhymes kicked the ballistics” (263). To revenge, Manny ditched his arranged wedding, the wedding his old man was so proud of and spend so long to arrange. Manny ditches the wedding just like how he was ditched in Punjab, leaving his family in total embarrassment. After leaving his family, Manny has finally solved the conflict he had and got the life he always wanted, an ordinary life. Now he lives with Lisa’s parents, who are the most caring parents Manny could ever have. As a reader, I’m really thankful to live in a family who care about how I feel, listens to what I share, cheers me up when I’m feeling down, and hit me for my bad actions because they care about me. Lastly, they let me choose my path.
Here is where I got my image.