Moving can be one of the most stressful times ever, especially when you’re a kid or a teenager. The hardest things are breaking the news to your best friends, packing, being on the travel, unpacking, and settling in. Also, you’re probably thinking, “Oh my gosh! I’m never going to be the same again! I’m going to hate the rest of my life!” But guess what? That’s normal! Just remember: You are going to settle down eventually and yes, you are going to never be the same again, but that’s a good thing! This guide will help you feel much calmer during your moving adventure. Relax and enjoy!
Breaking the News To Your Best Friend(s)
Breaking the news to your best friends can be really difficult. Boys actually tend to take it a bit better than girls, usually, so the reaction you’ll get from your friends may depend on their gender. Use these steps to make breaking the news much easier.
1. Think of a good place and time to tell your friends. For girls, a sleepover with all your friends may be a good choice. For boys, maybe a group together playing video games or after playing a sport with all your friends.
2. It may not be a good idea to tell your friends the news too late or too early. If you tell your friends early, you might find you’re not ready to accept the fact that you are moving yet yourself. If you tell your friends a bit late, you won’t get to spend quality time with your friends before you leave.
3. At the time and place you chose, first tell your friends in a kind of serious voice that you need to tell them something. Don’t make it too casual, but not too serious either. That sounds complicated, but when you say it, what you need to say will probably flow out nice.
4. Be honest and clear. If you know, tell your friends the exact day, week, or month you will be moving.
5. As hard as it, you’ll probably receive a whole bunch of reactions from your friends. If they think you are kidding, tell them you’re not kidding and you are going to move.
6. Spend as much time with your friends until you move. Make sure you spend the last few weeks, months, or days with your friends and make them treasurable.
Packing is a hard time for many kids and teenagers, because that’s usually a time when your parents say, “Okay, you should throw away this and this and this. Oh, and give this whole box of stuff to charity…” Let’s face it. Nobody wants to give or throw away his or her stuff. Also, knowing what to put in what pile is frustrating. Use these steps to let the smoothness flow.
1. As boring as it sounds, clean your room. You’ll feel more prepared to take on the packing job when everything is sorted pretty well.
2. If you want, ask your parents to help you figure out how to sort everything and how to squeeze the most stuff into only one box. Of course, you should probably not ask your parents for help if they are the type who wants you to throw your most meaningful items out.
3. Separate your room into three piles: A Pack Up Pile, a Give Away Pile, and a Travel Pile. The Pack up pile is for everything your going to pack up. The Give away pile is made up of your old objects that you don’t want anymore and will give away or sell (See? You can make money of off your move!) The Travel Pile is for items you want to put in your carry-on or backpack, such as your small electronics, a few books, etc.
4. Bring in some boxes and packing tape
5. Move the Give-Away Pile and the Travel-Pile to the side for now. You’re focus at the moment is the Pack-Up Pile.
6. Organize your Pack-Up pile into small groups, like electronics, school stuff, books, etc.
7. Pack those items in, keeping the items as much in their own groups as possible.
8. Label the boxes with a permanent marker.
9. Tape up the boxes with packing tape.
10. Do steps 4-9 with your Give or Sell Away Pile.
11. Pack up your Travel pile in a backpack or carry on the same way, but wait to do pack that up until about two days before your flight or drive. Don’t forget to pack your suitcase with clothes and other necessities.
On The Plane
Plane rides can be a normal, but in many ways horrible way to travel for many people. The food can be as disgusting as a cat’s hairball spit out in an anthill and the hours can seem tedious. Use these steps to survive the horror known as the plane ride.
1. Don’t pack too much stuff in your carry on, for it will crowd you and make you uncomfortable during the trip.
2. If you’re bringing a device with batteries, bring extra batteries!
3. Try to get a window seat or aisle seat. Aisle seats allow you to get your food faster and get to the bathroom faster without disturbing people. Window seats allow you to see all the way down to the Earth and enjoy how the Earth looks like an ant village.
4. Pack some snacks, because sometimes airplane food can be unbearable and disgusting.
5. Pack a water bottle and ask the flight attendants to fill it up when they come around.
6. Wear a short sleeve shirt, but pack a jacket. You don’t know how warm or cold the plane will be.
7. If you have long or medium hair, brush your hair before and after your flight, because hair tends to get horribly tangled when you sleep on the plane.
8. If you have a portable DVD player, you should use it! This will help prevent your ears getting plugged from the flight, and it will help keep you occupied during the trip.
9. If you have something that helps you sleep, don’t forget to bring it. You’ll want to catch that sleep. The “something” may include blankets, pillows, and stuffed animals.
10. Unless you get air sick, read a book on the plane. Also, try those puzzle books like look and finds. You may be older and would like to purchase some really challenging puzzle books!
11. Bring a chargeable device with games galore.
12. Bring a sketchbook or notebook if you like to draw or doodle.
13. Don’t pay attention to the clock! Time goes slower when you’re watching the time.
Unpacking is hard, because you have to find a place for everything and decide where everything should go. The deciding can be frustrating and the last time I unpacked… it took me nine very hard tries… Well, that shouldn’t happen to you, so follow these steps to make your unpacking much more different then mine.
1. If your room is completely empty or not, sweep/vacuum to get a fresh start. Nobody wants to see dust bunnies when they come home.
2. Get some fresh air spray, like Febreeze, to make your room smell nice and welcoming.
3. See if you can paint your room a nice color. Your parents have a 75% chance of saying no, but you can still try to ask!
4. Get some furniture for your room if there is not already some. Either way, arrange it in a way you want it.
5. Even if you already have furniture, try to get a fun chair (beanbag, roller, etc.).
6. Try to get a carpet too!
7. Lay out a bedspread that fits your personality.
8. Hang up some pictures in your room if you have any.
9. Get some Post Its or other tiny sheets of paper to put on desks, dresser drawers, etc. to label where you want stuff to go so you’ll be prepared.
Settling can be hard, because you’ll need to find a new best friend. You can keep in touch with your old friends, but nobody wants to be lonely the whole time they’re in a new area. Follow these steps to find a new friend in no time!
1. If your starting sometime in the school year, be friendly to everyone in your classes. You should at least be in the “becoming friends” stage with every person in your class of your gender.
2. If you’re moving in the summer, try to see if there’s anyone your age that lives by you. You may find a best friend before the school year starts.
3. Some people may not want to be kind to you. Some may even start bullying you. Stay away from these people, and if that’s not possible, either ask them to stop. If the problem persists, look online for ways to get people to stop bullying you.
4. Don’t stop what you like to do. If you like sports, find a sports team. Try clubs. Even though some things are changing, you don’t have to make what you like change.
5. Bring your lucky charm if you have one. Lucky charms are confidence boosters.
6. Get back into old routines. That can also help with jet lag.
7. Say yes instead of no. Boosting confidence is key to helping with the stress of settling in.